Names are a funny thing. I’ve been responsible for the names of four cats and three cars, with the agreement of my husband of course, and I’m fairly smug about these choices. I’ve also given my characters names, but often they are taken from the person who inspired the story.
For the story I’m writing now, it was inspired by my mother, but it doesn’t feel right to name the main character after my mom. So I turned to my family tree for some inspiration.
I’m lucky enough to have my family information going back to 1807. It’s fascinating.
Italians use a naming tradition where the first boy is named after paternal grandfather, first girl – paternal grandmother. After four kids, the generation before is satisfied. From there, you’re on your own. Also, Saint Rocco was the patron saint of the town, so every family had at least one Rocco (that’s my dad’s name) and, of course, a few Marias for good measure.
My family certainly held up this tradition. But then it gets a bit weird. If a child died, they reused the name.
There was a lot of tragedy in these families, infant mortality was high. My great grandmother had 13 children. 7 lived past infancy. Maria Maddalena was born on February 24, 1877, she died on May 4, 1877. Her sister born on March 1, 1881 was given the same name. In that same family, there were 3 boys named Francesco (the first 2 died, the third lived to 94). It is a recurring theme through the records.
It’s heartbreaking and something that most of us would find hard to fathom. I like to think of it as a tribute to the lost child combined with a mind boggling practicality (“It’s a perfectly good name, we should re-use it”).
Going through these records, suddenly, my own name makes more sense. My name is a bit of a family controversy – well, at least it is for my mother. 44 and a half years later and she’s still pissed about my name. She had wanted to name me after her sister Rosa, my father had other ideas. So instead of being Rosalia (or as I recently found out, Rosantonia – I told her that would not have been cool), I was named Maria Antonietta. That’s fine, but my sister’s name is Maria Anna (important note, she’s very much alive).
I’ve always joked that I was kid number five and girl number four, they had run out of grandparents to name me after, they were tired and had given up. Now it all makes sense. Looking at these records, it was not so weird to have 3 living kids named Maria or Rocco, never mind being named after one that had passed away.
Based on the fact that my sister had already taken Maria (or in her case, Mary Ann) and that my mother was none too happy, I have never been called Maria and forget about being called Antonietta. So I am Etta, and, quite naturally, it is not pronounced the way it is spelled. I swear that there has always been so much confusion around my name, that if I were given a polygraph test and was asked “What’s your name?” I would fail.
My character needed a truly special name. One that was hers alone. Amongst the confusion of my ancestors, I did manage to find one that stood out: Serafina, which means “burning one” or “burning passion”. Now that she has a name, she needs a full story.
Next week, a history lesson.